Culture can influence a person’s grief, having been told to be strong, some need permission to show emotion.  Given recognition that they are hurting is very important.  Participation in making arrangements and doing things is a very important part of their mourning.

The grief response is highly individual, some individuals hide their grief.  Not everyone mourning a death experiences depression, anger, guilt, fear or deep sadness.  Behavioural, social, and physical responses, attempts at coping, and beliefs about death and mourning among people are so varied.  The result is that there is even more diversity accepted as normal mourning.

Many are riddled with guilt and regret, having been conditioned to believe they are responsible for virtually everything.  They feel they should have been able to do so much more, even to have prevented the death.  The kind of guilt experienced in these cases is usually 'neurotic' guilt that is induced by culture.  We need to recognise that this is very different to 'cause and effect' guilt, and know that another's life and death is ultimately not in our hands.

Women often have a wider support network, and are more willing to talk about their feelings.
Men usually have fewer support persons to rely on and do not like to talk openly about their pain.  Fewer men join support groups.

Some people take longer to process their grief than others.  Depending on one's relationship with the deceased and how one handles one's grief, the time for grieving varies enormously from one individual to another.  When one's relationship with the deceased was close and loving, with no feelings of regret, sometimes the mourning process can be quicker.  If one blocks out the emotions, they are likely to resurface, still unresolved, at a later date.